Available For Love
Learn about the subconscious patterns that block love, shift into emotional availability, and rewire your beliefs so you can attract emotionally available, masculine love.
Each episode builds on the next—and by the end, you’ll not only understand why love hasn’t worked in the past, but feel deeply ready to receive it now.
Hosted by Anabell Ingleton, certified subconscious reprogramming facilitator
Available For Love
1. Are You Emotionally Available For Love?
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Learn how your subconscious creates your attraction patterns and why even smart, successful women keep choosing emotionally unavailable men. Understand the emotional 'picker problem'—and what to do about it.
Doors are open. Your new love story begins here.
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Hey there and welcome to the Available for Love podcast mini series. Why you're not attracting the love you want, even if you're smart, gorgeous, independent, doing the work, you've done the healing, you've done the therapy, let's get into it. What if the only thing standing between you and the love you want is what your subconscious believes is safe? Hey, beautiful, welcome to the first episode of this series on becoming subconsciously available for real love. I'm Annabelle. If you've ever asked yourself, why do I keep attracting men who don't show up for me, even though I'm doing the inner work? Why does love feel hard or exhausting? Or even why do I feel bored with the good guys? Then this series is for you. Over the next few episodes, I'm gonna teach you exactly why your subconscious may be blocking you from the love you want, how to rewire that pattern, and how to finally feel safe receiving the love that's consistent, committed, and real. Let's start with the truth that will change everything. The real reason you're stuck in patterns that don't make sense. You're not broken, you're not too much, and you're not doing it wrong. But your subconscious might be doing exactly what it's been trained to do. The subconscious mind runs about 95% of your behavior, especially when it comes to love. It chooses what's familiar, not what's good for you, not what's in your goal, vision board, on your Pinterest board. It doesn't care what you want. It chooses what's familiar, not what's consciously good for you. So if chaos, anxiety, or emotional distance felt like love growing up, or that's what you saw, and that's what you've been experiencing most of your life up until now, your subconscious will label that as home, comfortable, safe, familiar. That's why you might feel bored by the guy who's stable and wildly drawn to the one who triggers your anxiety. Conscious desires versus subconscious safety. Here's the disconnect. Consciously, you want the real thing. You want a secure, masculine man who knows what he wants. You want to be pursued, you want to be adored, you want to be chosen, and you want emotional connection. But subconsciously, love might mean danger, vulnerability, losing control, or it might even mean too much effort, performance, earning your place, people pleasing. And so without realizing it, your subconscious filters out emotionally available men. They don't line up with what your subconscious knows as normal for you, familiar for you, safe for you. They don't light up your nervous system the same way, emotionally available men. They don't make, they don't make you feel like, ooh, chemistry, right? They may feel boring to you, or they might seem like that's not my type. Because your brain is wired for survival, not for love. I'm gonna say that again. Your brain is wired to keep you alive. It's not keep, it's not wired to make you fall in love. The picker problem. When familiar feels safer than healthy. This is why smart, amazing women like you keep choosing the wrong guys because your picker isn't broken, it's just been programmed. Okay, and I often say your picker's broken. I need to not say that. It's just programmed to be attracted to, choose, and attract the wrong guys. Okay. The good news, you can reprogram it. You can teach your subconscious that healthy love is safe, that you don't have to earn connection and work hard for it. And that being adored doesn't mean you'll be abandoned and heartbroken soon. This is where your entire love life changes. Not through more logic or more dating rules or watching TikTok videos or reading more books, but through subconscious rewiring. You're not here to settle and you don't have to. You're not here to settle for the almost man, the comfort zone guy, the chase, the crumbs, or the emotional roller coaster. You are made for connection, for clarity, for love that feels like home and lights you up. But for that to happen, you have to make your subconscious available for what your soul and your conscious brain are asking for already. All right, what's next? So now you know, if you've been repeating painful love patterns like the ones I described, it's not because you're not ready for love. It's because your subconscious doesn't feel safe for it yet. But in the next episode, episode two, I'm gonna teach you exactly how the subconscious works, what it responds to, and how to reprogram it to crave emotionally available love. You'll learn how to speak your subconscious language, because it's very different than your conscious mind, the one that you use when you're awake. Two, you'll learn how to interrupt patterns from your past so they don't keep on repeating themselves in the present moment and then further sub program your subconscious. And three, um, how to wire in the kind of love you were always meant to receive. So go ahead and press play on episode two. I'll see you there. Your new love story starts there.